Why I Don't Have Facebook
Note: I am NOT hating on those who have facebook - OBVIOUSLY. Otherwize, I'd have no friends :) And I must thank KT for keeping me in the loop ...because I dont have facebook - she keeps me posted!
Firstly - I'd like to say that I am no longer AGAINST facebook. I can now see and appreciate its usefulness and convenience. I've seen how easy it can be to connect with old friends, let people know where you are and what you're up to, share pictures, and overall know the insides of people's lives. In the past 24 years, I too have made many friends and met tons of new and interesting people. And I admit - it would be nice to know how they're doing and what they're up to. And there are many times now where I wished I had facebook.
So why don't I have an account?
1. I don't need another distraction in my life. You know how many times I hear people say things like "facebook is ruining my life", "i spent way too much time on facebook, i didn't get any work done", or "i was on facebook wayyyy too late last night". I know most of you are thinking that you don't have to spend that much time on facebook ie. that it doesnt NEED to be a distraction. But lets be realistic - how much time do you spend on facebook a day? Even if it is just checking your wall, inbox, or whatever the hell else you can check on there. I know it would distract me because of course I'd love to see everyone's pictures and find out how and what everyone else is doing. I'd rather not have to fight to keep facebook from being a distraction to my studies, time with God, and time with REAL IN PERSON FRIENDS!
2. I enjoy randomly thinking of old friends and wondering how they're doing and what they're up to. When that happens - I email them and let them know that I've been thinking of them and wondering what they're up to. Now, if I had facebook, I wouldn't be thinking and wondering what they're up to...because I would just KNOW already. Without having to ask them or talk to them. I could just scan their photos, their wall posts, or status and my curiosity would be satisfied. Personally, I enjoy getting an email from an old friend randomly to find that they're thinking of me. So I assume other people enjoy it too.
3. I don't necessarily need/want more "friends". This may sound harsh - but you know how many times I get asked what my facebook is or if I have facebook? A lot. It's the new line in introducing yourself these days. "Hi, how are you? What's your name? Add me to facebook. Nice to meet you." I don't need or have time for fake friends and I certainly don't want to 'get to know them' based on their pictures and whatever else I can dig up on them.
4. I don't need any associated facebook-drama in my life. "Oh my gosh, he changed his status - they're no longer dating", or "how come you havent accepted my friend request?", or "so-and-so keeps writing on that person's wall - i wonder what's going on?". And it goes on. I've had people crying to me because of stuff they found out or ASSUMED based on facebook. I already have a hard enough time assuming the best of people - some things I'd rather not know/see - that way, I have no way of coming up with silly conclusions based on assumptions.
Now - I KNOW that facebook doesnt have to be a distraction or create drama etc., but I'd rather not even put myself in the place where it COULD be and where, again, it's just another temptation to fight against.
On a different note, I do use Picasa to share pictures with friends. Here is a link to my latest trip to Bali!
Firstly - I'd like to say that I am no longer AGAINST facebook. I can now see and appreciate its usefulness and convenience. I've seen how easy it can be to connect with old friends, let people know where you are and what you're up to, share pictures, and overall know the insides of people's lives. In the past 24 years, I too have made many friends and met tons of new and interesting people. And I admit - it would be nice to know how they're doing and what they're up to. And there are many times now where I wished I had facebook.
So why don't I have an account?
1. I don't need another distraction in my life. You know how many times I hear people say things like "facebook is ruining my life", "i spent way too much time on facebook, i didn't get any work done", or "i was on facebook wayyyy too late last night". I know most of you are thinking that you don't have to spend that much time on facebook ie. that it doesnt NEED to be a distraction. But lets be realistic - how much time do you spend on facebook a day? Even if it is just checking your wall, inbox, or whatever the hell else you can check on there. I know it would distract me because of course I'd love to see everyone's pictures and find out how and what everyone else is doing. I'd rather not have to fight to keep facebook from being a distraction to my studies, time with God, and time with REAL IN PERSON FRIENDS!
2. I enjoy randomly thinking of old friends and wondering how they're doing and what they're up to. When that happens - I email them and let them know that I've been thinking of them and wondering what they're up to. Now, if I had facebook, I wouldn't be thinking and wondering what they're up to...because I would just KNOW already. Without having to ask them or talk to them. I could just scan their photos, their wall posts, or status and my curiosity would be satisfied. Personally, I enjoy getting an email from an old friend randomly to find that they're thinking of me. So I assume other people enjoy it too.
3. I don't necessarily need/want more "friends". This may sound harsh - but you know how many times I get asked what my facebook is or if I have facebook? A lot. It's the new line in introducing yourself these days. "Hi, how are you? What's your name? Add me to facebook. Nice to meet you." I don't need or have time for fake friends and I certainly don't want to 'get to know them' based on their pictures and whatever else I can dig up on them.
4. I don't need any associated facebook-drama in my life. "Oh my gosh, he changed his status - they're no longer dating", or "how come you havent accepted my friend request?", or "so-and-so keeps writing on that person's wall - i wonder what's going on?". And it goes on. I've had people crying to me because of stuff they found out or ASSUMED based on facebook. I already have a hard enough time assuming the best of people - some things I'd rather not know/see - that way, I have no way of coming up with silly conclusions based on assumptions.
Now - I KNOW that facebook doesnt have to be a distraction or create drama etc., but I'd rather not even put myself in the place where it COULD be and where, again, it's just another temptation to fight against.
On a different note, I do use Picasa to share pictures with friends. Here is a link to my latest trip to Bali!
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